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High Expectations.

Me and Marc were discussing these study results that were posted in the paper the other day. Basically, it said that people with lower expectations were happier.

How exactly are they measuring this? And do I need a PhD to figure this out? I mean, OBVIOUSLY if you're not striving towards something and don't expect something, you have nothing to be disappointed with.

Anyways, our discussion went all over the table and we've agreed that there's absolutely nothing wrong with having high expectations. High expectations does not mean "unrealistic" expectations.. let's just get that out there right now.

You're worth it. You know who you are. If you have high expectations for yourself.. then why settle? Cuz lemme tell you, I've seen a fair amount of people settle.. or rather.. not care. Because they basically have no expectations. And.. hey. .. that's great for them.. But don't tell me I'm not as happy because these are the things I want.. and in the meantime, I don't intend to date a bunch of in between guys that barely even make the cut.. (no.. i don't mean that supermodel guy with the ferrari and million dollar job. those are superficial things. i'm talking about more fundamental things that mean so much more than that.)

Obviously there are exceptions to this.. as with everything else. Sometimes you can compromise or go around certain things.. but it depends on the situation and how much of an issue the problems at hand are and if they can be helped... then you can kinda wait around and see if there's possibly a chance. Who knows.. people might sometimes surprise you.

So many people are stuck on this *needing* a partner by their side. So, they don't have high expectations because they just want that person to be there. Well, I'm sorry.. but I'm not that person. I was never one to care if I had someone or not. I don't *need* someone in my life. I'm fine and dandy on my own. I have a lot on my plate and have my own stuff I need to focus on. I'm not living my life for someone else. I'm living my life for me.

It's not always all about me. I love my family. I love my friends. They all are important to me. But when it comes to my plans in life, it IS about me. Why shouldn't it be?? And if i hold such high expectations for myself, why should I accept anything less from someone else? I wouldn't be content with someone who wasn't on the same page as me.. but isn't that everyone? It just seems logical to me.

There's too much to talk about on this topic.. so, I'm just going to end this here. Feel free to comment and add your own input. I'm curious to hear what others have to say on the subject.

I don't want to fit into this predesigned mold.
I'm going to make my own shape.
However warped and disfigured it may appear to the rest of the world.